Wanting Closeness When You Feel Disconnected From Your Partner

You want to make changes. You want to relate to your partner differently- in a way that’s helpful, fosters connection, and yet is suitable for the moment. But when you go to reach toward them, you feel a tightening, and then you recoil.  It’s risky to change our patterns and reach out, mainly when we’ve already predetermined the outcome. Or when we’ve historically been met with our partner’s coolness. Being vulnerable can seem like a risk too huge to take.