Couples, Arguments, and Reactions
Relationships can be confusing. We all have longings and desires. For many, it’s a longing for connection, to be understood and heard, and to know that our partner is there for us. When something happens within our relationships that creates distress and threatens our longings, we experience pain and fear. We begin to question our relationship, our love, our connection.
Wanting Closeness When You Feel Disconnected From Your Partner
You want to make changes. You want to relate to your partner differently- in a way that’s helpful, fosters connection, and yet is suitable for the moment. But when you go to reach toward them, you feel a tightening, and then you recoil. It’s risky to change our patterns and reach out, mainly when we’ve already predetermined the outcome. Or when we’ve historically been met with our partner’s coolness. Being vulnerable can seem like a risk too huge to take.
My partner doesn’t want to go to couples counseling, but I do…
Did you know that you can go to couples therapy alone? Like your partner never has to step one foot in the door. I know, I know. You’d rather they go. But don’t let that stop you from getting the relationship help you need.